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Dear Elaine，

I understand your concern about your sexual experiences with your boyfriend and your lack of orgasm during intimate moments. Firstly, it's important to note that not all women experience orgasm in every sexual encounter, and self-stimulation can sometimes provide different and more intense experiences.

You mentioned that you can reach orgasm through self-stimulation, but not during intercourse with your boyfriend. It's worth exploring if there are any physical or emotional barriers that might be hindering your experiences. It's also crucial to recognize that each individual is unique and might require different forms of stimulation or approaches to reach orgasm.

Regarding your boyfriend's difficulty in reaching orgasm during intercourse, it may not be directly related to you. Some men require visual stimulation from pornography to reach orgasm, and this may be a habit formed during their adolescent years. When faced with a real partner, the gap between fantasy and reality might be difficult to overcome, leading to anxiety and an inability to perform adequately within the vagina. This could be a sign of sexual dysfunction, and the problem might persist with other partners as well.

To address this issue, it's essential to have an open and honest conversation with your boyfriend. Encourage him to make efforts to improve and gradually overcome his reliance on pornography. Initially, you can explore alternative methods of stimulation, such as oral sex, while gradually introducing him to real-world experiences. Be patient and understanding, as changing habits takes time.

Moreover, it's worth considering the broader relationship context. If you feel that there's a lack of emotional closeness or if your boyfriend is closed off emotionally, it might be worth reassessing the value of the relationship. Intimacies are built on trust, communication, and mutual respect.

Miss Sex advises both of you to seek professional help if the problem persists. A qualified sexologist or therapist can provide personalized guidance and support to help you both overcome these challenges and enhance your sexual experiences.

Remember, sex is a journey of exploration and enjoyment, not just a physical act. Embrace the journey with an open mind and communicate openly with your partner to achieve a satisfying and fulfilling sexual life together.